My (almost) 14 month old won't sleep through the night, and I don't know what to do about it!
A few weeks ago we finally conquered the "cry it out" strategy. We literally just let him cry...for hours...all week. But at the end of that time he started sleeping through the night much more soundly. His burst of crying shortened to minutes instead of hours and the frequently reduced significantly, like from 4-5 times a night to 2. We all started sleeping better.
However, there are still those days, or nights rather, where he wakes up screaming and crying for what feels like an eternity. In reality it's probably 20-30 mins, but when you are 33 weeks pregnant and desperate to go back to sleep 20 mins is pretty close to eternity.
We're not sure why he still wakes up so often. I always thought that if he learned to self-soothe and go to sleep on his own, then he would stop waking up and crying for prolonged periods of time. I thought this whole "cry it out" thing was a parent's secret weapon for teaching babies NOT to cry at night.
The real struggle here is what to do about it, and since we have at least one of these episodes about every other night it's really starting to present a problem.
If we go into him to check on him and make sure everything is okay, he just gets mad and the crying will continue for hours! If we go in to soothe him and rock him, then we feel like we're taking steps backward and we don't want to do that! We all suffered way to much to get to where we are now!
However, continuing to ignore him just doesn't feel right. He knows how to just go back to sleep now, and he's crying anyway. What if he's in pain? What if he's wet through his diaper? What if he had a bad dream?
And no, I can't just listen to his cry and tell you what's wrong. His "I'm in pain" cry sounds exactly like the "I'm really mad at you" cry. If we went in every time he was seriously crying, we'd be right back at square one!
So here we are. Desperate.
My mothering instincts say we just
So here is where you come in. Help me! Share your old wives tales. Tell me the horror stories from when your children were little. Quote scripture about how weeping only endures for the night. Something. Anything!
And while your at it, if have a good idea for how we can improve our sleep habits go ahead and include that too. My pillow will thank you!